Happiness is a choice……


Happiness is a choice. This is something I’ve come to learn over the years. You can choose to be miserable or you can choose to be happy. The best kept secret is to never let another human being dictate how you feel or think. Treasure your life, believe in your dreams and always work hard to achieve them. Nothing feels better than accomplishing something you never thought you could. Continue reading “Happiness is a choice……”

Is it Love or Lust?

Falling in love is a beautiful, breath taking experience……the problem is it could very well be lust. When we fall in lust vs. love it never lasts. Lust is simply a phase you go through when you’re deeply attracted to another person.


While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with lusting after someone as long as you don’t confuse it with love…..that’s how you get hurt. People tend to make things out to be more than what they actually are. Having sex comes with responsibilities…like understanding that sex is all it is, but feelings tend to develop over time….when they do, you have to be able to be mature enough to know it doesn’t automatically equal relationship.


You ever meet someone and you guys have an instant attraction and you guys spend most of your time together having sex, this could go on for several weeks even months. But! When you really start to get to know them you find out that you guys have nothing in common……..sometimes you actually don’t like them. Lustful relationships don’t last because it can’t sustain real situations.

Falling in love on the other hand is something that gets stronger over time. You can fall in love without ever touching a person physically. When you fall in love, you fall in love with the person they are on the inside. It’s mental and spiritual. Its unconditional.

When you love a person you learn to love and accept them for who they are…..flaws and all.



When Friends turn into Foes…..


When a person shows you who they are the first time. Believe them! So many times we ignore what we feel and still allow these people a place in our life. I don’t think there’s anything worse than a person pretending to be your friend, when they’re secretly putting you and all your accomplishments down. Sometimes your enemies feel the need to be close to you so they can have a front row seat in your life. Not to be there but to bask in your pain, hard times and low times. After all, a person can’t talk about what they don’t know.


Be aware of those that don’t clap when you’re winning. These people aren’t your friends. There are red flags that we often ignore.

Let me tell you a story……I became friends with a girl who I really didn’t like from the beginning. My gut told me she wasn’t right and I didn’t listen too it. My fault, I know. 2 years passed and I had to learn the hard way….

Here are the Red Flags I ignored:


  1. She back-stabbed another “friend” then blatantly lied about it
  2. I caught her stealing from my purse more than twice (that should have been the end)
  3. She never supported anything I’ve ever done..
  4. She copied everything I did
  5. She was never there for anything unless it was some bullshit

Needless to say, it almost came to the point where I wanted to put hands on her. Instead I cut ties and have been much better off since.

The moral to this story is…….if you know the person you are dealing with is no good…get far away from them before they eventually do dirt to you, because they will.

Some people just have dirty hearts driven by greed, jealousy and insecurity.

Be careful who you call friend.

Domestic Violence is NOT OKAY!

Hi Everyone!

I’ve prayed about it and thought about it and I have finally taken the step to start my journey of unraveling all the bits and pieces that has made me who I am today.

One part of my past, I want to share with you guys is Domestic Violence and how I became a Survivor.

Which brings me to our newest Blog/Vlog series: Surviving Domestic Violence. Learning to Love Yourself

It has taken me a long time to talk about my own experience with Domestic Violence and how I survived. Hell, I still have never told a soul of the things I went through, excuse me…..what we went through because I have kids, but that’s a whole nother post/video.

Today, I just want to shine a light on Domestic Violence. I came across a video pertaining to this subject and it made me want to speak on it. So sit back and get my opinion on Men who physically, mentally, emotionally & verbally abuse the women they claim to love.

A man that abuses you, could never love you. He doesn't even love himself.  ~Nikki

Personally, I believe any man that abuses a woman in any form is not a man. He’s a little boy trapped in a mans body. Some men actually believe the only way to keep a woman in “check” is to demean, disrespect or hit her. These types of men are very insecure with themselves. They’re scared to death that you’re going to wake up one day and realize he isn’t shit and leave.

Instead of loving you until you love him back….he tries to intimidate you and instill fear in you so you’d be too afraid to leave. It’s sad but these types of men go after the same type of woman…..weak-minded and vulnerable.

These types of women are more than likely, women who are desperately looking for love, in need of financial help or she may have spent her whole life looking for a father figure. These women are easier to control.

Make no mistake, women from all walks of life can become victims because they all share that common link. They are searching for something that can only come from within….. Love! Love yourself first. When you learn how to completely and totally love yourself, no one can take that away. When you know your worth you won’t except any thing less.

Next Upcoming Blog in our Domestic Violence Chronicles: Are you a victim of Domestic Violence?

Click here to get the Domestic Violence Statistics (It is not a game)

Don’t have anywhere to go? Click here for safe shelters all over the united states

If you’re in immediate danger, please call 911

Stay safe and Stay tuned

A man that abuses you, could never love you. He doesn’t even love himself.

Dating someone who’s Married?

  We live in a world where manogmy is a joke. People get married and without a thought will go out and start dating another person. 
You can not date a married person. It’s wrong and it’s something I strongly disagree with. It brings nothing but hurt, bad karma and an uncertain future. 

Think about it before you decide to cross the line and destroy someone’s family.